My parents came down last weekend. Mom stayed with me for the week, which was wonderful. The kids were thrilled to have her here. One day Emily and Jessica came for lunch and a project. Another day I took her up Big Cotttonwood Canyon to see the gorgeous changing leaves. I cant believe I forgot my camera. Since she has left, Jacob keeps asking when she is coming again. We are all looking forward to another visit.
Dad went to church with us on Sunday and while in sunday school the conversation was brought up about the 'entitled' generation and the upcoming 'me' generation. How so many kids just want what they want now and when I was growing up We would have never been given a wii for Christmas and Kids now don't want to climb the ladder they just want to have a great easy job with out a lot of work. Finally after listening to everything that is wrong about this generation I asked Where did it go wrong? Many of the class members have children of 'that generation' so shouldn't they know how to fix it? As a mother of 3 young kids what am I to do to prevent that entitlement? This has been a question I have had for years now and I have yet to have been given a black and white answer. I could go on forever on this topic. I need ways to teach my kids to work. I would love for them to be involved in 4H or something similar. Where hard work is rewarded. (Raise a sheep, get a ribbon at the fair, sell it and earn money for school clothes?) Or a family business where they are responsible for the production?
Mom and I were talking and she said that there is a lot of talk on Oprah, and other shows about education and She wondered why there wasn't a school for mothers? I wonder the same thing. Kelly Ripa has joked before about the encyclopedia of a manual that came with their big screen tv but when handed her first child there was nothing.
A school for mothers.... A formal education to teach patience. I would love to take a couple practice tests on patience where if I lose it the 'final grade' isn't really affected. A class on economical but gourmet cooking, taxes, scheduling, etc... I mean even nurses practice before the give their first poke.
As a young mother in the 'trenches' you don't always see the big picture? A class on perspective would be great too....
Parenting baby steps sometimes go unrecognized. Dad does a good job pointing out the little successes that we have here at the Hill house. And it is a good thing. I think maybe he recognizes it because he is a teacher and a good teacher points out the successes.
Sunday morning Jacob woke up and the first thing he asked was if Grandma was awake and that she needed her key. With the way he was so adamant I wondered if he had slept well all night worrying about it. He told me he had put it in the little garbage can. I started to freak out a little. Checking his trash can, the 2 in the basement (where he once threw the wii remotes away... luckily my sister in law caught them before we took out the trash!) and went back up stairs to Jacob. He knew he was in trouble and was running around looking for it. I asked him one more time where it was and he said "Um its in my purse" and in his 'purse'(bike handle bag) were cars and the little garbage can from his garbage truck with the key inside.
Dad pointed out that he understood the importance of the key and knew that Grandma needed it. He was determined to find it and was truly sorry for taking it. He is very sensitive to Grandma and her needs. As I look back on it, I am amazed at the way the little brains of children work. How they can go from not knowing to understanding so much. Children do know right from wrong. Jacob is growing and learning so much each day and I appreciate my Dad pointing out those little triumphs.